Greta Lee at the 2023 Vanity Fair Oscar Party.Photo:Daniele Venturelli/Getty Images

Greta Lee attends the 2023 Vanity Fair Oscar Party hosted by Radhika Jones

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“They don’t remember that I once sold them pork buns,” Lee says in the new issue of PEOPLE. She calls the coincidence “wild,” but declines to name names or reveal who may or may not have been polite. “I could, but I’m choosing not to,” she says coyly.

The star’s days of jotting down orders are long behind her. Her new movie,Past Lives— a lovely and heart-wrenching drama about a married New Yorker (Lee) who wonders “what if?” when her childhood crush (Teo Yoo) visits from their native South Korea — has charmed critics and landed on early Oscar prediction lists.

For Lee, getting attention for her first major leading role at age 40 “is a total dream,” but not one she can bask in for too long.

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Greta Lee in Past Lives

“I am still a mother of two very young children,” says the L.A.-based actress and writer, who shares Apollo, 6, and Raphael, 4, with her husband, writer-actor Russ Armstrong, 39. “It’s a sharp pivot from great reviews to, ‘Where is my breakfast?’”

Lee’s long journey to this moment has been “twisty in unexpected ways,” she says. The child of South Korean immigrants — Peter, a doctor, and Jane, a former concert pianist turned housewife — Lee studied at Northwestern University (where she met Armstrong) and found success early on.

In 2007, she joined the Broadway musicalThe 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee. “I thought, well, now I’m the Korean Scarlett Johansson, surely this is it,” she quips. “I’m done, I’m good!”

When the show ended in 2008, she struggled to find more acting work and waited tables. That’s when she found herself serving the rich and famous folks who’d one day become her costars.

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Teo Yoo and Greta Lee in Past Lives.Courtesy of Twenty Years Rights/A24 Films

Greta Lee ‘Past Lives’

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Her ability to make the most of every scene left an indelible impression on viewers and colleagues alike. “I love her more than anything,” Lee’sTheMorning ShowcostarJennifer Anistontells PEOPLE. “Not only is she an absolute joy to have on-set, she’s brilliant and so great at what she does. I don’t even know how to put words to it.”

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RUSSIAN DOLL, from left: Natasha Lyonne, Greta Lee, (Season 1, aired February 1, 2019).

Lee, in turn, says she watches and learns from the Emmy-winningFriendsicon: “I have absolutely been stealing everything I can from working with her.”

So much, in fact, that when director Celine Song offered her the role, Lee broke down in tears, she tells PEOPLE: “I had one of those very clichéd moments where I hung up and screamed into my pillow.”

Past Livesis in select theaters now and opens nationwide on June 23.

For more on Greta Lee, pick up the new issue of PEOPLE.

source: people.com